Author and motivational speaker Mindie Barnett answers your questions about life, navigating these stressful and uncertain times, while steering you down a more straightforward path. We welcome your questions and invite you to reach out to Mindie at mindiesmusings1@gmail.com

Dear Mindie,

Where to start? I feel so stressed and anxious this time of year. Between the long hours of darkness, colder air, and the stress of dealing with family functions, it just makes me want to crawl into my bed and stay there until Spring! I know what I’m feeling is not that unusual, especially for me, but this year I feel down. I don’t know what to do, and it’s just the beginning of the season!

Sincerely, SAD

Dear SAD, 

I hear you! What you are feeling is perfectly normal. However, the winter cold, lack of daylight, and spending more time indoors, as a result, can make you feel isolated. It’s downright debilitating, especially if you are prone to feeling anxious when life becomes overwhelming.

I’d like you to consider the level of anxiety and possibly depression you are feeling. If you find yourself unmotivated to tackle daily tasks and socialize, you should consider seeking a licensed therapist. In doing so, they can better gauge the stress and angst you’re feeling and help you develop concrete coping strategies, among other crucial psychological support.

On a holistic level, I recommend reframing your thoughts. Instead of focusing on the negative impact of social responsibilities, financial strains, more commitments with family, and the downside of having shorter days, try to concentrate on the positives. I promise you there are some! Cheerful music, delicious food, a relaxed work schedule (for most), and the time to catch up and reconnect with friends and family more profoundly. Even the shorter days can yield some uplifting elements: snuggling with a cozy blanket and watching a movie or reading a good book, picking up a hobby to occupy your time indoors, or tackling any home improvements you have wanted to do.

I also believe it’s best to move your body when feeling down. So often, when feeling low, exercise is the last thing on your mind, but it’s always the best for us. Just taking a brisk walk outdoors, doing an online workout, or taking a workout class so you can be in the company of others, will naturally boost endorphins, allow you to free your mind, and you’ll feel better in the end.

Lastly, a healthy and steady morning routine is also a great way to keep sadness in check.

Of course, it won’t erase the uneasiness. But waking up at the same time every day and allowing yourself to meditate, sip coffee or tea, read a book, or “just be” will strengthen your day and put you in a place of power.  

Of course, it won’t erase the uneasiness. But waking up at the same time every day and allowing yourself to meditate, sip coffee or tea, read a book, or “just be” will strengthen your day and put you in a place of power.

Love,

Mindie